Remember Holidays with Your Mother? Holidays have a way of sticking with us. Not the perfect ones—the real ones. The traditions. The rules. The things we were told mattered… and the things that quietly changed over time. In Catholic Daughters of Catholic Mothers, Dr. Martha Lucas reflects on what holidays looked like growing up, especially through the lens of faith, family, and expectation. And if you grew up in a household where religion shaped the calendar, some of this is going to feel very familiar.
When Lent Meant Something (and Also Everything)
For many Catholic families, Lent wasn’t just a season—it was a mindset. The word itself came to represent the forty days leading up to Easter, beginning on Ash Wednesday. It was tied to the story of Christ fasting in the desert, and with it came the expectation that you, too, would give something up. Candy. Soda. Television. Something you actually cared about. Because that was the point. You weren’t supposed to give up spinach or homework. You gave up something that hurt a little. Something that felt like a real sacrifice. In return, there was this idea—sometimes clearly explained, sometimes just absorbed—that the sacrifice brought grace. And grace mattered. It was the thing that helped tip the scales. The thing that kept you on the right side of everything. Looking back, it’s hard not to smile at how seriously we took it… and how creative kids could get trying to negotiate what “counted.”
How Traditions Change (Whether We Mean Them To or Not)
Over time, things shift. Sometimes intentionally. Sometimes quietly, without us even noticing. Dr. Martha shares how, as a parent, her perspective changed. Instead of asking her children to give something up, she encouraged them to give something instead. Volunteer. Donate. Help someone else. It made more sense. It felt more meaningful. And that evolution didn’t stop there. Like many families, the religious weight of certain holidays softened over the years. Christmas still held onto pieces of its origin story, but Easter? Easter became something else entirely. Egg dyeing. Baskets. Candy. Traditions that, interestingly enough, have been around since the 1700s. And yes—even jellybeans have a history that may trace back to a version of Turkish Delight. Somewhere along the way, the meaning didn’t disappear—it just… changed shape.
The Stories We Carry Forward
What makes these reflections so powerful isn’t just the history—it’s the honesty. The recognition that we don’t experience traditions the same way our parents did. And our children won’t experience them the same way we did. And yet, something still carries through. That’s what Catholic Daughters of Catholic Mothers captures so well. It’s not just about growing up Catholic. It’s about growing up within a system of beliefs, expectations, and traditions—and then figuring out what to do with them as an adult.
A Thoughtful Mother’s Day Gift
If you’re looking for something meaningful this Mother’s Day, this book offers more than a quick read. It’s part memoir, part guided journal, and part invitation to reflect on your own experiences—whether you share Dr. Martha’s background or not. It’s a gift that says, “I see where you came from.” and “And I’m curious about your story.”
Grab a Copy for Mom
Paper copies are 10% off through Mother’s Day, making this the perfect time to give something a little more personal. Because the best conversations don’t always start with a question. Sometimes… they start with a book.